One of Life's Amazing Gifts
That you can wake up every day and make a decision to become a certain way, to do a certain thing in a particular way, to make something happen as you desire it to. Is one of life's amazing gifts and all of these are connected to your personal power.
I am very grateful that in every moment I can choose 'something' else if I am not fulfilled by the moment as I desire it to be.
I use the word 'something' in reference to how I am being, what I am doing, how I am speaking
Your life, your personal existence, how you show up, exists today as you created it to be,
Ever notice the noise in your head about a particular conversation or circumstance you are experiencing? Wishing it was going differently, or you were more powerful in it? Perhaps an argument gone awry and you wished for more patience. Or a first date you are on is not going the way you want and your listening more to the voices in your head than to the person sitting across from you.
No really...take a moment and notice all the conversations you have in your head about you desiring something to be different? You desiring you to be different? You telling yourself what you can't be, do have.
Where You Have Creative Control
The obvious! You can only control your own behaviour, actions and words.
First step to your creative process is to let go of trying to change the other person in the circumstance or conversation.
Then ask yourself:
What here can I create by doing or being or speaking different?
I get it, it's a shift from how your brain has been working. Usually you're with noise and nonsense in your head. It's the truth! We all have it, so don't be upset with me! We're all the same that way.
I'm showing you how to redirect your thoughts to be more alligned with your desired outcome.
Which brings me to my next question you'll ask:
What is the outcome I am looking for?
It's important to be as clear in your vision of this as possible. Backed with your first question (What here can I create by doing or being or speaking different?)
You are now creating an intention that you will lean into. And you can lead with. You are creating yourself in your life.
An Example To Help You Out
I find myself looking for mastermind groups for me to help grow my business and network of business contacts. I believe there are a lot of brilliant people out there!
As a person who feels more naturally introverted and actually enjoys my moments of introversion. It takes energy for me to put myself in amongst a crowd of people I do not know and even further make intentional connections with people so the outcome I desire of growing my business and contributing to others can actually happen.
Here's the thing...I have many choices of how I could create this.
"I AM THE ARTIST OF ALL MY MOMENTS" ~Dianne
Is an illusion you create to give yourself an excuse why you can't/shouldn't/wouldnt do or be something different.
Its your choice! You are creating powerlessness in your life by choice.
Notice what old beliefs you are hanging onto that have you live here in the world of resisting change, "I Can't" and the symptoms go on and on!
I get we will all have our moments in powerlessness.
I fall into this and when I awaken in the moment I used to ask myself "how did I get here?" Now I ask myself what can I create? What outcome am I desiring? This recharges the moment with new energy, ideas and language.
Later I can reflect on what I possibly didn't decide or did decide in order to find myself in a powerless situation and decide to bring that knowledge forward or not.
Stop your powerlessness! Start creating yourself.
I Am Who I Am!!
My least loved personal statement.
It strikes me as powerless and ignores one of the most delicious elements that life has gifted to you as a person. CHOICE and the statement itself is a choice.
If you are feeling powerless and living in the world of you are who you are you are disrespecting the gift of choice. I use the word disrespecting because it's like someone offering you a compliment and you ignore them.
How much choice you get rippens with your age.
As a baby you are limited by language and physicality and so choice is limited...but don't be fooled...show a baby who has learned to reach and grab items, two items at one time, they will grab one and they are making a choice.
It saddens me to hear older teens to seniors express their lack of choice through complaining what they don't have, don't do or can't be in their life.
Is this you?
Giving all your personal power over to your environment (circumstance) rather than learning and understanding that through your own choices, possibility exists.
"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right!"
One of my all time favorite quotes, that keeps me reminded that every moment is what I make of it.
You can dive in and create your life or you can sit on the sidelines and just watch and/or complain about it.
You are NOT lost! You are right where you are now.....start creating the you that has you feeling like you are living a life that YOU create and choose to live!
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till next time...live with love, passion and playfulness.
A Business Relationship Trainer, Virtual Team Coach & Facilitator who loves all things related to business strategy, growth and innovation through the power of people in relationship.