I could start off this article berating myself for having not been accountable enough to have missed 5 months worth of writing.
I would apologize and make explanations as to why you haven't heard from me. And though they may all be true, it does not address that during that time you have not heard from me.
I have truly learned from the inside out what Self Love & Confidence is and what life is like without them.
I'm here today to express my experience and to offer you something a little special.
For the past few years I have slowly given up or given in, which ever you prefer (as both are disempowering) my own dreams of becoming:
At some point I noticed that as I slowly gave up on each of these desires by accommodating life's circumstance, my personality incrementally became more sad and negative, and the people around me for whom I thought I was doing this for, didn't notice nor even knew what I was giving up and only noticed the rise of my unhappiness.
*Remember I am writing this from hindsight now, so I can see the path behind me clearly. (An important exercise we must do to learn from our life events ~ the good and the bad)
So without creating another tangent about self centredness and selfishness here, I would like to discuss the importance of self love (which confidence is a by product) in our life.
I stand here in the space of once having confidence, then waking up one day and realizing I had lost it, to now regaining it and owning who I am in a much more powerful way. It is an exciting and exhilarating place to be. I also feel that it is in my full capability and responsibility to maintain this space.
In this experience what I know to be fact, is that to the degree you honor, respect and love yourself is equal to the degree of confidence you will feel. That respected confidence that we have witnessed in others. Not the kind that leaves you wondering if you are seeing ego or a forced way of being. The natural confidence that lays softly around our being and only grows and exists from the nourishing we have done within ourselves. It is totally available for you to have.
The Self Love & Confidence we all want.
Top 5 Things to Know
Here are my top 5 learning's:
1.) No one else can do the work to build your self love, only you! You will never find your love for self in any one else or any where else.
2.) Get clear on what you want your life to look like. Clarity, Planning, Scheduling and Action are what makes it all happen!
3.) Get clear on who you are! Who you want to be and take actions on being that person.
4.) Never, Ever give up on this journey! It means you have given up on yourself for that time. And really bad things happen when we no longer have ourselves in focus. It leaves way to much room for others to influence us.
5.) Loving yourself is not a crime! People who don't understand how important it is will always be the nemesis of our self love. Invite them to join you on the journey or let them go.
6.) Find a mentor, coach or program that you can invest in learning about and developing yourself and do the work!
How You Can Have Self Love & Confidence Daily Too!
In my business I have always enjoyed the ability to help others gain perspective and confidence in themselves. LUMINA has been a huge benefit for myself and others as the entry point to seeing ourselves more clearly.
The workshops, personal and professional performance training and small group engagements I do all include the content and learning's I have had from the years of training as an Organization and Relationship systems coach.
I see today that I needed to have this very personal experience of losing myself to better enable me to reach others more deeply and have a clearer understanding and appreciation of just how impactful lack of self love and confidence is.
I am so excited to have this available to offer to you now!
If you are ready to start your life journey to self love and confidence, and want to learn more about how you can transform yourself, then simply click this link below and take that baby step today towards your personal and professional freedom!
A Business Relationship Trainer, Virtual Team Coach & Facilitator who loves all things related to business strategy, growth and innovation through the power of people in relationship.