Influence: Words mixed with Emotions

Leadership - Management - Parenting - Coaching

'Influence' the trend work of 2016... so let's keep it simple.

You want to impact others in your life?  Your colleagues or employees at work? Your friends and family?

Then the words you choose matter and you better be in touch with how you show up with and manage your emotions.  These are the two elements to master to become an effective influencer in communication

Emotions

Emotions is what makes your words powerful and effectively received by others you are communicating with.  The key here is that the emotions you exhibit are 'managed' emotions.
You don't need to drop bombs (high intense emotions) to get your expression across when a small firecracker (truthful relevant emotion) will do the job.
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Learn more about your own personal emotions here

​You also don't want to show up limp and disinterested or without a clear outcome. You won't look good in the eyes of the receiver and you will lose your effectiveness.

Words

You need to have well chosen words in your mental index.
It would serve you to get familiar with a list of emotions and their definitions so you can reference in preparation for your communication.  
​Building your emotional words into a story that gets presented with your authentic managed emotion is influence at it's finest.

The impact comes from your story, your experiences, perspectives, feelings, successes, failures, where life exists, is your emotion!  
​Choose your words wisely!

The benefits of Influence with Words and Emotions

• making effective requests of others
• transformational presentations
• increased engagement
• reduced distractions by having a captivated audience
• impact on those you are communicating with
• solving problems more efficiently and effectively
• personal confidence and awareness

Steps to Successful Influence

1. Understanding Your Emotions ; if you are unaware of our own emotions, you can forget others being able to understand your communication of them.  LUMINA Spark is a great tool to adopt awareness of yourself and how you show up for others.
2. Database of Impactful Words ; get yourself a dictionary app that includes a thesaurus tool with it.   I use Dictionary.com
3. Learn How to Tell a Story ; Their are plenty of books on this and if you want one for business.  Check out Business Storytelling For Dummies 
4. Know and Believe in Your Desired Outcome ; this comes down to being able to do effective vision work.  Understand and see how your conversation will go with your clear outcome in mind before actually performing the conversation.   Even if something rises up to deal with immediately, take 15 secs, which is a long time for your brain, and compose your outcome, and in that you will see the emotion and then your story to tie your words in to the communication.    Vision work can be achieved with a Life Coach

​As with all relationship skills, influence requires practice and self knowledge.  Take the time to get this information and take the actions.  In no time, you will have mastery of influence and your life will change!